ALL I NEED: A LOVE LETTER

I missed the anniversary… but never forgot the woman.
 This might be the realest love letter I’ve ever said on a mic.

In Episode 75 of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, I step away from the sarcasm just long enough to get honest about marriage, distance, sacrifice, missed moments, and what grown love actually looks like when life gets heavy.

Living between New York and Dallas, juggling pressure, purpose, business, responsibility, and trying to build something bigger than the moment, I open up about accidentally missing my wedding anniversary—and why that mistake hurt me deeper than people may realize. But this episode goes beyond apology.

This one is about the woman who changed my world.

The woman who gave me a reason to get a passport, travel abroad, experience new firsts, and understand that real love is not just joy—it’s pain, growth, patience, forgiveness, and choosing each other through difficult seasons.

I also shine a light on her brand Height and Heels, celebrating confidence, femininity, ambition, elevation, and what it looks like when your partner builds something real.

If you’ve ever loved somebody long distance, fought for your relationship, missed a moment, or needed a reminder that loyalty still exists—this episode is for you.

Expect heartfelt storytelling, relationship gems, marriage truth, accountability, long-distance love perspective, and the signature Styles touch: raw honesty with smooth edges.

🎧 Episode 75: ALL I NEED
Available now on all streaming platforms.

Transcript

Personal Opening And Confession

Styles 0:00

Salutations, people. Today's a little different. Usually I'm outside of somebody's restaurant with a coffee in hand, talking slick about life, people, brunch chaos, and whatever emotional nonsense we volunteered for this week. But today, today's personal. Well a little bit more personal. Because you know, anyway, it's a little bit more personal. This one's for my wife. See, love gets talked about like it's candles, captions, and convenient timing. But real love? Real love looks like book flights, sacrifices made, stress swallowed, pause, big pause, and showing up tired because Quittin was never on the menu. So, for those of you not in the know, my wife lives in Dallas and I live in New York. Now you're officially in my business if you weren't already. So let me be clear since honesty lives on this platform to a great degree. I hate New York. Tell them I said it. I love the energy, I love the culture, I love the people, the original people, not the transplants. This city will tax your soul and send you an invoice just for breathing. That's real shit. Meanwhile, my piece lives in Texas. So let me get right to it. Somewhere between responsibility, ambition, bills, business plans, deadlines, and trying to build a future worth handing to the people I love, I missed our anniversary. This has deeper meaning than just missing our anniversary. But that's more for S Dot, less for you guys. Anyway, me missing the anniversary,

When A Partner Becomes Home

Styles 1:49

that shit hurt me deeply. Not because I forgot my woman, because I could never forget my woman. I forgot a date that I was solely responsible for. I picked the date. And not to make excuses, I forgot the date because I was carrying the weight of too many things at once. My mind has been a popular destination for tsunamis as of late. It's not an excuse, it's just the truth. And just to frame this properly, our wedding anniversary was last month. So today, instead of flowers that die, I bought words that mean something. Alright, check it out. Let's go inside and talk about it some more. Welcome to Bunch Behavior The Poor Report. I'm Styles, and today's pour a slow sip of gratitude because some love deserves more than silence. Let me break this down for you. The Sip Sermon. There are some women you date, some you admire, some you enjoy. And then there are the women that become home. My wife is home. Not because she's convenient, not because she's easy, and definitely not because life slowed down and handed us soft timing. Because even in chaos, she feels like peace. And that's rare. Very rare. We all have a past. So before her, I traveled around, moved around, saw cities, caught flights, couple of road trips. But my movement stayed domestic. I was collecting miles, not horizons. Let's keep it funky. This woman is the reason to have a passport. And let that sit for a second. She expanded my world in every sense of the word. Because of her, I traveled abroad for the first time. Also, because of her, I experienced what it feels like to step into unfamiliar places with a familiar love beside me. And sometimes that's what love does. It doesn't just hold your hand, it widens your map. Side note Some people into your life with flowers, some people into your life with paperwork and perspective. Passport stamps count too. I got a lot of first with her. First international trip, first time seeing life from a lens bigger than survival. First time understanding that love can be beautiful and uncomfortable in the same week, same day, sometimes in the same hour. And if I'm keeping it all the way honest, I'll learn what love meant from her. Not the movie version, not the caption version, the real version. The version with pain, the version with joy. The version where two imperfect people keep choosing each other through confusion, distance, pressure, growth, and timing. That's a hell of a fucking list. The version where sometimes you get it wrong, but you never stop meaning right. She taught me that love can stretch, love can challenge, love can forgive, and love can demand more from you than you knew you had. And that's how you knew it was real. Because real love doesn't just comfort who you are, it calls forward who you're supposed to become. And my baby is beautiful. She's brilliant, stylish, layered, resilient, and she's building a brand that reflects exactly that. Height and heels isn't just a name. It's elevation, it's confidence, it's femininity with standards. It feels like her. Strong, beautiful, intentional, and not here for the nonsense. Now let me say this publicly.

Owning A Missed Anniversary

Styles 5:17

Missing out anniversary was never a reflection of my love. It was a reflection of a man carrying too much while trying to build something bigger than the moment. Still wrong, still painful, still mine to own. Because love deserves attention, and to my wife, Miss Lady, you. You are not overlooked, you're not taken for granted, and you are definitely not, quote, later. End quote. You are part of every reason I keep going now. Let me break this down in a glass for the people.

The Drink That Mirrors Distance

Styles 5:57

Today's drink is distance makes the pull stronger. What's going in the glass? Cognac, vanilla liqueur, espresso, maple syrup, and a dash of cinnamon. Strong foundation, smooth sweetness, late night energy, warm finish. Kinda like us, this isn't loud, it lingers. Quick disclaimer. If you're single and bitter, this may sound like a lot. If you're in love and tired, it may sound familiar. And before the internet starts freelancing with assumptions, this is not trouble in paradise, not a breakup teaser, and not smoke in the house. This is simply a husband honoring his woman in real time. And if you hurt somebody good by accident, fix it while they still care. This is what it looks like in real life. Love is not always roses and loom surfers. Sometimes, love is FaceTime calls across state lines. Sometimes love is did you eat text between meetings? Sometimes love is saying, I know you're overwhelmed. I'm here for you. How can I help you get through this? And that honesty matters. Side note, the right person won't always clap for your grind. Sometimes they'll ask where you disappeared to. That question is love too. Now let's talk about

How To Support Their Dream

Styles 7:14

dream support. If your partner has a dream support it, encourage it, be present for it. Believe in it when the road gets quiet. These are all important things. Share it, buy it, mention it in rooms. Protect their confidence when the numbers are slow. I'll give you a prime example. Anything my wife touches, I'm fully behind it. I'm promoting it, I'm speaking on it, I'm showing up for it, and I'm celebrating it loudly because that's what support looks like. And besides that, I feel like I married a celebrity anyway. So I just want a piece of the action. I'm joking. But that's what support looks like. When your person is building something meaningful, you don't stand on the sidelines acting cold. Alright? You get behind them like the wind. The same way people rally behind celebrities that they never met, brands they just discovered, artists they barely know, or pages they follow for a laugh. Bring that same energy home. You're adding emotional momentum. I like that term better than cheerleader. So yeah, after this, go to height and heels on the gram because right now I'm in promo mode. And truth be told, like I said earlier, I feel like I married a celebrity. You might think so too. So take notice when your partner is building something real, you're not allowed to stand in the audience. Grab your phone, get the pom-poms, put on your thinking cap, and help build the stage.

Final Vow And Shameless Plug

Styles 8:45

The final poll. To my wife, Esther. I love you deeper than convenience. I respect you louder than compliments, and I appreciate you beyond what daily language can hold. Real shit. I'm still fighting for everything we said we wanted. That hasn't changed. Life is unfair sometimes. The distance is more painful than it is annoying, and the pressure is ever present. But quitting has never been in my language. So if I miss the moment, know this. I never miss the meaning. Sip happens. Every sip tells a story. That's your pull for today. Shameless plug time. And I'm only doing this once. I'm not going through this. We're not stopping it. I'm not editing it. Ready? Here goes. If love has to survive time and distance pressure or pride, grab the free pour. Five drinks, five sermons, and a moment to breathe. And when you're ready to toast to drone love with flavor, grab the brunch behavior summer pack. The link's in the description. Scratch that. I meant to take that out. The link's not well, it is in the description, but just DM me and I'll get you all the information you need. How about that? Anyway, just another reminder that real love isn't loud, it's loyal. Catch you on the next pull.