Flirtation Inflation

Flirting is loud right now. Effort is quiet.

And Styles is calling that imbalance all the way out.

On this episode of The Pour Report, Styles breaks down flirtation inflation—that modern dating era where attention gets confused with effort, emojis get mistaken for intention, and soft ghosting drains trust in slow motion. Everybody “showing interest,” but nobody showing up.

Styles runs the play on:

• Why attention is not commitment
• How the flirt-to-nowhere loop keeps people emotionally on hold
• The real cost of validation theft
• Why plans over vibes is the new standard
• And how charisma opens the door, but effort is the only entry

This episode also introduces the Flirtation Fizz—a smooth, unapologetic toast to real follow-through—and a no-nonsense framework for dating with clarity:

Plans. Presence. Purpose.

Because flirting is just the trailer.

Effort is the full movie.

And breadcrumbs are officially off the menu.

🎁 Grab the Free Pour — five drinks, five Sip Sermons, zero pressure.🍹 When you’re ready to stop playing with potential and start honoring boundaries, Styles invites you to tap into the Brunch Behavior Summer Pack.

🔗 Both links are waiting in the description.

SIP happens. Every SIP tells a story.

Chapters

• 0:00 Attention Isn’t Effort
• 0:44 Naming Flirtation Inflation
• 1:18 The Flirt To Nowhere Loop
• 2:39 The Overflirter Archetype
• 3:40 Bars, Boundaries, And Accountability
• 4:14 The Flirtation Fizz Recipe
• 5:14 Trailers vs Movies: Do The Work
• 5:51 CTA: Free Pour And Summer Pack
• 6:09 Closing PSA And Sign Off

Transcript

Styles: 0:00

What's good people? Yo, you ever deal with somebody who swears they're applying pressure, but the only pressure they've ever applied was sending a hard emoji after watching every single one of your IG stories? Modern dating got folks thinking attention is effort, convenience is commitment, and showing up is optional. I felt bad for y'all. Meanwhile, you're sitting there trying to figure out if y'all are building something real, or if this is just an emotional layover between their last disappointment and their next excuse. That's some L shit. Consistency got people shook. It's wild out here. Folks love the idea of connection until it requires a calendar invitation or a real plan with real time attached. But today we're unpacking all of it. The flirting, the faking, the almost energy, the soft ghosting, and why showing up still matters more than you're cute in the comments. Let's get into it. Welcome to Brunch Behavior, the Poor Report. I'm Styles, and today's pour is served light on commitment, heavy on vibes, and poured straight into a glass full of false promises. You guessed it. We're talking about flirtation inflation. Let me break this one down for you. The Sip Sermon. We're in a dating era where people think eye contact is intimacy, and replying to your story with a hard emoji is effort. We're stuck in a flirt to nowhere loop where folks don't want a relationship, they want reactions. Flirting used to mean you were interested. Now it just means you're bored on your lunch break. And it's not just women getting played or men being manipulative. Everybody's messy. This is an equal opportunity sport of emotional laziness. Y'all out here sending good morning beautiful texts, but only when you're between situationships, you drop that let's hang out soon like it's an actual plan. But soon? Soon as never. Soon is the Bermuda Triangle of Modern Dating. If your date calendar looks like a CVS receipt, but nobody's actually been taken outside, you're not smooth, you're just annoying. Because flirting without follow-through is just spiritual loitering. You're just standing in people's emotional doorway. Not coming in, not leaving, just blocking the air. That fake consistency, the performative interest, the soft ghosting, that's not harmless. That's validation theft. Stop texting your POI, flirty compliments, and disappearing like your Wi-Fi got repossessed. POI, person of interest. Anyway, don't do just enough to keep them intrigued, but never enough to be accountable. The brunch behavior breakdown. Picture this. You're on a group date, somebody ordered the Tau mimosas, we got 90s RB playing in the background doing exactly what it's supposed to do. Everything is smooth until they show up. You know the type, the overflurder with no follow-through, the I'm locked in performer. Also, you know, you got the you different ambassador. But somehow everybody gets the same script. Oh yeah, they're charming, for real. The charisma's on autopilot, the kind of person who feels like a good idea, right up until it's time for an actual plan. When it comes to showing up, when it's time to invest and when consistency is required, crickets. Or worse, they hit you with the yo, I've been meaning to call you back, but work been crazy. Yeah. Work hasn't been that crazy since 2021. Let's be serious. Alright, family. Dating is not a casino. You don't get to drop a few flirt tokens and try to cash out on someone's emotions. Yeah, that was a fucking bar. Every now and again I do it to myself. Pause. This is not a strip club of intentions. Nobody, and I do mean nobody, is tipping your potential. If your whole pattern is to flirt heavy, disappear, then pop back up like your Wi-Fi's reconnecting, do us a favor. Go flirt with a mirror. That's who you're most consistent with anyway. Let me break this down in the glass for you. This drink is inspired by Brunch Behavior The Summer Pack, the book. If you haven't gotten your copy already, go get your copy. Since we're talking about flirting as a love language with no budget, it's only right that we pour flirtation fizz, the kind of drink that looks promising on the surface, but will absolutely expose who's consistent and who just likes playing in the comments. Here's what's going in a glass gin, elderflower syrup, fresh lemon, sparkling rose, and one raspberry. Shake the gin, lemon, and elderflower together, but don't shake the rose. Don't shake the rose. You don't want your kitchen looking like your last situation ship. Mess everywhere. Strain into a chill coop, top with rose, drop the raspberry, and toast to real effort, not emoji flirting. This is perfect for the ones who flirt like champions, but vanish when it's actually time to show up. The final pull real attraction requires real action. A little charisma that opens the door, but effort is what gets you inside. Keep in mind that flirting is only the trailer. Don't forget to shoot the actual movie. Also, stop offering breadcrumbs and calling it brunch because people want the full spread. If you're not pulling up with plans, presence, and purpose, don't pull up at all. And that's your pour for today. Sip happens. Every sip tells a story. And if you're running or empty, do what we do. Refill with intention. That's where the brunch behavior comes in. Grab the free pour, five drinks, five sermons, and a moment to breathe. And when you're ready to toast balance and boundaries, I can never get that right. When you're ready to toast balance and boundaries, tip the brunch behavior summer pack. The link's in the description. That was just another stop texting them like they're a vibe and then ghosting them like Casper got your number. PSA from Styles. Catch you on the next pull.