Volume vs. Validation: Why Being Loud Doesn't Make You Right

Just Because You’re Loud Doesn’t Mean You’re Right

On this episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, we unpack why volume isn't validation—and yelling doesn’t make your argument more valid, just more exhausting. Growing up in environments where shouting was the norm can leave us thinking that loud equals powerful. Spoiler: it doesn’t.

In this pour, we’re serving:

• How childhood chaos trains adults to equate yelling with authority
 • Why turning up during disagreements is a vibe killer, not a power move
• The way we weaponize tone in relationships instead of solving the problem
• When yelling is just fear wearing a mask labeled “control”
• The underrated flex of saying it with a whisper and still being heard
• And why powerful communication has nothing to do with your decibel level

🎧 Whether you're healing from high-volume homes or learning how to argue without yelling, this one’s a grown conversation in cocktail form.

🔥 Grab the Free Pour: five drinks, five sermons, and a crash course in boundaries.
📚 And when you're ready to toast to peace over performance, sip the Brunch Behavior: Summer Pack.
Links in the description.

Chapters

• 0:00 Intro to Brunch Behavior
• 0:18 The Sip Sermon Begins
• 1:27 Brunch Behavior Breakdown
• 2:54 The Peaceful Power Move

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Being loud don't make you right, it makes you loud.

Speaker 1: 0:03

Welcome to the Brunch Behavior, the Poor Report. I'm Styles. And today's poor straight no chaser. Loud but not correct. Let me break it down for you the Sip Sermon.

Speaker 1: 0:18

Let's be clear about something right out the gate Volume is not validation. A lot of folks grew up thinking whoever yells the loudest wins. The louder the clap back, the more right you are, the bigger the scene, the stronger the argument. But nah, that's not wisdom, that's noise in the tracksuit. Knock it off.

Speaker 1: 0:39

We all know someone who uses their voice like a weapon, Not to build bridges but to bulldoze the whole block. It's not for clarity, it's about dominance. They're not speaking to be understood, they're speaking to be obeyed and listen. I get it. A lot of us were raised in homes where yelling was the main form of communication. You were either loud or invisible, either quick with the rebuttal or you got steam rolled. But here's the thing growth ain't just about healing your silence, it's about checking your volume because, let's be real, if your point can't land without being shouted, maybe it's not as grounded as you think.

Speaker 1: 1:22

Now. Here's what it looks like in the wild the brunch behavior breakdown. The brunch behavior breakdown. You're out with friends, everybody sipping, laughing and swapping life stories. Then someone gets checked lightly, respectfully, but the energy shifts. Now they're standing up at the table, hands are flying, voice rising, saying things like I don't need nobody to tell me nothing or I've been grown the conversation over the vibe dead, All because volume got confused with virtue and don't let them be wrong and loud, that's the worst combo. Now you got to decide do I match the energy? Do I respond with logic, or do I sip my drink and pretend the menu's more interesting than it's?

Speaker 1: 2:14

Meltdown? It's exhausting and for those of us in relationships, romantic or otherwise, this shows up heavy. Instead of talking through conflict, we weaponize the tone. Instead of listening, we wait for our turn to get louder. Instead of resolution, we walk away hoarse with nothing resolved. And let me say it clearly being loud doesn't make you right, it makes you disrespectful. And sometimes that raised voice is just fear dressed up as control. You ever seen someone yell during a convo just to keep from crying? Yeah, it's that deep.

Speaker 1: 2:54

So what's the takeaway? Real strength is in regulation, when you can disagree without disrespect, when your voice is strong even at a whisper, when your energy commands a room without needing a shout. Stop masking noise for knowledge. Stop thinking your opinion hits harder just because you said it at a higher decibel. If the mic has to peak for you to feel heard, you might be performing. That's not communicating. That's your pull for today. If you're tired of mistaking chaos for confidence, grab the free pull. Five drinks, five sermons and not a single voice raised in the name of healing. And when you're ready to toast to calm conversation and volume control, the Brunch Behavior Summer Pack is waiting. Links in the description Just another peaceful power move from your boy Stabs.