Social Feng Shui: Why Friend Group Mixing Fails

Keep Your Circles Separate—That’s Not Fake, That’s Strategy

On this episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, we’re breaking down the pressure to mix friend groups—and why that cute little crossover dinner might’ve just been a social disaster waiting to happen. Newsflash: you’re not being fake—you’re being multi-dimensional.

This pour breaks it all down:

• Why your brunch crew, your creative squad, and your work fam aren’t meant to mingle
 • How different spaces bring out different (authentic) parts of you
 • The social chaos that happens when you try to merge groups without shared context
 • That awkward role you play when you're stuck mediating between the oversharer and the emotionally constipated
 • Why being the “glue” of multiple friend groups doesn’t mean you need to force them into one messy collage
 • The beauty in curating your social life like an intentional gallery, not a free-for-all open house

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Brunch Behavior
• 0:15 The Sip Sermon Begins
• 0:59 Social Feng Shui Explained
• 2:11 The Birthday Dinner Disaster
• 3:03 Permission to Keep Circles Separate

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Yeah, you know me, but you don't know all of me. Welcome to Brunch Behavior, the Poor Report. I'm Stiles, and today's poor, complicated but curated. Let me break this down for you. The Sip Sermon let's talk about something that doesn't get said enough. Not all of your friends are supposed to know each other, and no, not because you're hiding anything, it's because you're multifaceted like a playlist that goes from Coltrane to Cardi in one breath. You've got layers, you've got lanes and you've got friends that sit perfectly in certain chapters of your story, just not the whole book. Some people only know you in grind mode. Others know you in full brunch mode, but mostly in hand-given, unsolicited dating advice like it's gospel. You know what I'm talking about and some know you in your quirky, artsy, weird little rebrand era.

Speaker 1: 1:03

Now, pharrell, fix your face. We all have gone through it. And guess what? Trying to merge all these folks at one table, that's not community, that's chaos with cocktails. Let me connect the dots for you.

Speaker 1: 1:19

The brunch bestie that hypes your unhinged ideas might not vibe with a quiet friend who listens more than they speak. And your creative homie you know the one that makes music out of the bathtub acoustics. You might not click with your professional friend who schedules hangouts two weeks in advance and shows up with a Google Doc. So no, it's not fake to keep circles separate. It's intentional, it's self-awareness, it's social feng shui. Now here's what it looks like. In the wild brunch behavior breakdown, you throw a little birthday dinner, mix your brunch crew with the studio crew, add deep convo. Let's process our childhood's friend. You thought it was going to be cute. Instead you're playing interpreter, vibe manager and mood mediator all night, one friend's oversharing the others underreacting, and somebody's sitting there wondering why y'all even hang out. You try to keep it together but suddenly you're editing yourself because you don't know which version of you is acceptable when it's weird mixed room, and that's the problem.

Speaker 1: 2:31

Merging friend groups sometimes means diluting yourself. When you're with your brunch homie, you're loud, expressive, opinionated. When you're with your creative friend, you're introspective, poetic, a little odd, but in the best way. When you're with your grounded homie, you're serious, tactical, focus, and all of those versions are real, but not all of them need to perform at once. You are a whole gallery. Let people walk through one exhibit at a time.

Speaker 1: 3:09

This ain't a one room open house. Some friends are the vibe, others are the anchor, some make you laugh till your face hurts. Some make you think till your soul softens. That was poetic. Don't force them to blend just because you feel obligated. Now everybody fits together. That's not dysfunction, that's by design. So what's the takeaway? You're not fake for having different friend groups. You're full, full of nuance, full of flavor and full of rage, and that's your poll for today. If this one felt like permission to stop explaining your circle, grab the free pour Five drinks, five sermons and no apologies. And when you're ready to sip in rooms where you don't require personality gymnastics, grab the Brunch. Behavior Summer Pack. Links in the description Just another social architect from your boy's styles.