Trauma Transactions Must End

Some people only remember you when their world is burning—but forget you exist when the sun’s out. In this episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, Styles breaks down the harsh truth about selective friendships, emotional dumping, and the trauma-bond cycles we’re no longer subscribing to.

If you’ve ever had someone disappear for months, only to reappear with a paragraph, a crisis, and a “you’re the only one I can talk to” message… yeah, this one’s for you.

We unpack the real brunch behavior breakdown—the friends who don’t check in, don’t pour back, but always show up when life hits them with a plot twist. No “hey, how are you,” no balance, no reciprocity… just chaos on demand. Styles dives into setting boundaries, protecting your peace, ending emotional one-way streets, and recognizing when someone is connected to you vs. just convenienced by you.

This episode is for the people tired of being the emotional band-aid, the unofficial therapist, the crisis hotline, or the “fix-it” friend who never gets poured into. It’s time for an energy audit, a reset, and a reminder that protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s survival.

And when you’re done saving everyone else, refill your own cup:

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Brunch Behavior
• 0:15 One-Sided Relationships Explained
• 0:57 The Brunch Behavior Breakdown
• 1:38 Final Thoughts and Resources

Transcript

Styles : 0:00

Ayo, son, check it out. You only reach out when your life's falling apart. Welcome to Brunch Behavior, the Poor Report. I'm Styles, and today's poor, heavy but overdue. Let me break this down for you.

Styles : 0:15

There's always that one person who disappears when things are good, but the moment their life gets chaotic, here they come Texting long paragraphs asking for advice, saying you're the only one that I could talk to. I'm kind of conflicted about that one, ladies and gentlemen, but let me continue now. I used to be the person for you until I realized you only reach out when your life's falling apart and when mine, it was nowhere to be found. We're not doing trauma transactions anymore. If you only remember me when you're unraveling, then we're not connected, we're convenient.

Styles : 0:57

Now here's what it really looks like in the wild the brunch behavior breakdown. You hear from them after months of silence and it's never. Hey, how are you? Nah, nah, it's always a venting session, a crisis dump, an energy drain, fix your faces because I'm talking about you, and then, once y'all offload, poof back to nothing, and if you ever express how one-sided it feels, they flip it. Damn. I thought I could come to you. Yeah, you can come to me, but not just when the world's on fire. This ain't a safe space on demand. It's a connection, not a confession booth.

Styles : 1:38

Protecting your peace doesn't mean abandoning people. It just means not abandoning yourself to hold everybody else together. That's the ball. So what's the takeaway? If I only exist when you're in crisis, I don't exist to you at all, and that's your pour for today. So if you're done being somebody else's emotional band-aid, grab the free, pour Five drinks, five sermons and full restoration on the house Meaning it's free if that went over some of your heads. And when you're ready to sip in peace without the drama refill, tap into the Brunch. Behavior Summer Pack. The link's in the description. Just another energy audit from your boy Styles.