Sorry, Your Access Has Expired

Closure or Access? Let’s Call It What It Really Is

In this episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, we’re unpacking that slick little text that shows up months after the disrespect:
“Hey stranger, let’s catch up…”
Nah. What they call closure is really a vibe check to see if the door’s still cracked. Spoiler: it’s locked, and the key’s expired.

We’re pouring up real talk on:

• Why most “closure” convos are just attempts to regain access
 • How ghosters and gaslighters confuse your silence for softness
 • The guilt-trip tactics people use when your healing no longer includes them
 • Why closure isn’t always a convo—it’s a decision you made without clapping back
• That moment when you realize peace doesn’t require a reunion or an explanation
• And the power in knowing not every “we need to talk” deserves a reply

🎧 If you’ve ever been tempted to revisit a door that’s better left closed, this episode is your reminder: your growth doesn’t require their reentry.

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Because the loudest closure is living well—without sending the recap text.
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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Brunch Behavior

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Nah, closure, don't live here, no more. Welcome to Brunch Behavior, the Poor Report. I'm Sty, and today's poor is room 10. Because that chapter's closed, let me break it down for you. There comes a point when the convo's over and done, the energy's dried up, the plot's been wrapped, but here they come Talking about can we talk, or I just need some closure? Nah, closure, don't live here, no more. You weren't looking for closure when you ghosted, lied, disrespected or disappeared, but now that I've healed and stopped caring, now you got time. Nah, you don't want closure, you want access, and access is earned, not owed.

Speaker 1: 0:54

Now here's what it really looks like in the wild. Check it out. You're at brunch, you're feeling good, you're vibing. Then you get a text. You know the text. The hey stranger was just thinking about you. We should catch up for coffee or something. All right, cool. So let's translate that they want to test the lock that they used to have the key to, not to make things right, but to make sure you're not doing better without them. We've been there before, right? The problem is they confuse silence with softness. But healing doesn't always come with an invitation back in See, sometimes closure ain't a conversation, it's a decision. So what's the takeaway? Not every we need to talk is worth your time. Some doors close quietly and you owe nobody an echo. And's your pour for today. If you're done explaining your piece, grab your free, pour. Five drinks, five sermons and not one drop of regret. And when you're ready to sip your growth without looking back, tap into the brunch. Behavior summer pack links in the description. Just another boundary brick from your boy styles.