The Illusion of Busy: When They Post But Don't Reply

Ever sent a heartfelt message only to be left on read while watching that same person post endless brunch photos and perfectly captioned selfies? That frustrating contradiction is exactly what we're diving into today.

Digital ghosting has become an epidemic. We're calling it what it is – selective communication. "Busy don't look like IG stories every three hours, and busy damn sure doesn't sound like Beyoncé lyrics in the caption and nothing in your inbox." When someone consistently finds time to curate their online presence but can't spare thirty seconds to respond to you, they're making a crystal-clear statement about their priorities.

What we're witnessing isn't about time management; it's about respect and attention currency. People reply to who they want to, period. This behavior—what we're calling "breadcrumbing"—has become normalized through social media platforms that reward constant posting while enabling avoidance of meaningful connection. The truth hits hard: energy that ghosts you but stays active online isn't busy, it's a choice.

This episode serves as your permission slip to stop making excuses for people who demonstrate through their actions exactly where you stand. You deserve digital respect. Ready to establish healthier boundaries and recognize when you're being breadcrumbed? Grab your copy of the Free Pool Five drinks—five truths and zero tolerance for digital disrespect. And when you're ready to sip like your peace depends on it, tap into the Brunch Behavior Summer Pack. The links are in the description. Your digital peace is non-negotiable.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Brunch Behavior
• 0:12 The Sip Sermon Begins
• 0:34 Selective Communication Breakdown
• 1:28 Key Takeaway and Resources

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

You wasn't too busy to post, though. Welcome to the Brunch Behavior, the Poor Report. I'm Stiles and today's poor passive-aggressive with perfect lighting. Let me break this one down for you the Sip Sermon. You ever hit somebody up, text DM, maybe even sent a voice note with emotion, and they leave you hanging. Hours go by, no response days, even Crazy, crazy work, but while you're sitting there wondering if you said something wrong, they're out here posting brunch pics, twerking and reels and reposting memes like their thumbs got unlimited data. Let's be real. You wasn't too busy to post, though. Now here's what it really looks like in a while the brunch behavior behavior breakdown.

Speaker 1: 0:44

We're in the age of say with me selective communication. Folks don't like time. They lack respect, and attention is currency now. So if they're spending it everywhere, but with you, that's your answer. Busy, don't look like IG stories every three hours, and busy, damn sure, doesn't sound like beyonce lyrics in the caption and nothing in your inbox. The truth is, people reply to who they want to, period, so don't chase nobody who can't return a message but somehow got time to upload brunch selfies and digital filters and captions that don't match the chaos of their lives.

Speaker 1: 1:26

They out here capping, so what's the takeaway? Energy that ghosts you but stays active. Online isn't busy, it's breadcrumbing. Let them snack elsewhere. That's your pour for today. If this one hit that little scene bubble in your soul, grab your copy of the Free Pool Five drinks, five truths and zero tolerance for digital respect. And when you're ready to sip like your piece depends on it tap into the Brunch Behavior Summer Pack. You already know the links in the description. I gotta say I have to say it, I'm a traffic cop of sorts. Anyway, no-transcript.